If you are quick to take offense, then you’ll be under the control of those who you find offensive. If you are easily angered, then your actions will be dictated by those who anger you. If you are obsessed by what other people think, then you will be imprisoned by their thoughts. If you yearn for easy answers and quick solutions, you’ll fall prey to people who offer you nothing but promises. If you find the truth too difficult to bear, you’ll be enslaved to those who tell you what you want to hear. When you have the courage to think for yourself, the strength to accept what is, the commitment and discipline to make a difference, then you are free.
You are truly free to live with purpose, joy and fulfillment. Let your life be defined, not by reactions to what others do, say, or think but rather your own unique vision. Raise your eyes above the pettiness and follow the path of the greatness that is within you. – Author Unknown
We live in world which has a system which is too much controlling, which makes us feel like a prisoner fighting to be free, but guess what I’m breaking out of captivity and will shout I am free, I will be free! (try it) I am not the kind of person who likes to be controlled by anybody nor I like to be the one controlling .. In our life, there are many kinds of relationships between people. But many people have stressed relationships on its account, but we must not be helpless about it.
Every human being is a unique person & therefore no two cases may be identical, though they may be similar. If the way we spend our time, the people we meet & which work we do etc., are totally governed by some other person(s), and we are peacefully/calmly enduring it, just to keep our work or family relationship which results to losing ourselves.
We live in a harsh word where people respect and listen to the one with high pitched and loud voice, there is no more respect and ears opened for those quite ones who are shy, afraid unconfident people (I once was the quite one btw). It’s time to build a strong YOU!
We have to prepare ourselves for the break up, and make a plan (write it) for each of the constraints of life, so that the pains of the break up are reduced. We should stop letting the feeling of helplessness, lack of trust & personal loss get to us. We should decide to break from it, it can be done I’ve done it, of course it had its consequences. However, I gave myself credit when I decided and believed that all what I did was a fight for myself. We must have the ability to fight, it is worth fighting for and if it result to losing something while we are at it let it be we are ready for it.
Yes, it is a painful procedure but this of the price you fought for yourself and your freedom you broke from a controlled relationship.
Remember that each day is a chance to invest in life, a chance to renew yourself, to drop yesterday’s skin, to reborn yourself , to getrid of yesterday’s hurt. Be glad of life each day as it gives you a chance to work , love and play, to look at sun. And then when the sun set’s don’t cry the tears will make you miss the beauty of stars. Life moves on and if you don’t stop and look at the wonders already present in your life , You will miss life.
Think of BIG thoughts but enjoy the small joys life offers each day. May be it is as simple as smiling at someone. Make things happen rather than let things happen. One can give nothing what- so – ever without giving oneself. The most important thing in life is not what you get but what you give and once you set yourself free you will learn to be free which will bring with it the joy, forgiveness, and about all you will learn to do and Learn to give.